Do You Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse? It Didn't Affect Me!!!??

    When you were young, you were a victim.  You may or may not have known it was wrong but the most important part was you didn't have any power.  The other person had the power.  You just wanted to be loved, whatever that took...you just didn't expect being loved would be like that.
     Time went on and it seemed to be less important.  It was something you put in the back, far away from the every day "you".  If anyone knew, you would be so humiliated, even if it wasn't your fault.  you were afraid people would think it was your fault.  Like you could have stopped it, could have controlled it, even if you really couldn't, people don't believe it.  They want to know "why?", and you don't know why either.
      Now all this time has passed, and you don't even think about it very much.  You see things on TV or in the newspaper and it reminds you.  When everyone else is talking about the latest story, sometimes you think about how it could have been you they are reading about.  But it isn't you, it isn't you!  Your life isn't messed up. You are in control.  You work and you have a daughter.  You are a contributing member of society. And no one knows.
     But your life isn't going well.  You are taking drugs and sometimes you take drugs in front of your daughter.  But you are doing OK; your daughter has good grades and you have an important job.  Except you have to declare bankruptcy, more than once  and life at home is not so good.  Somehow you keep finding guys that don't treat you so well.  They hit you, they hit your daughter, there is a lot of name calling and sometimes infidelity.  But you still want to be loved, and you keep trying and trying to do whatever you need to do for that love.  You work so hard.
    You protect your abuser.  Hide the story.  Don't get any therapy because you don't need it.  If you can just get everything straight and right, it will be alright for you.  Then you find out how much your daughter is hurting, hurting right along with you.  She's cutting herself, she pulls away from everyone  The beautiful, shining child with all the hope and promise is now sullen, depressed, shut alone in her room and cutting herself to deal with the pain she feels in the life you live, the life you share.  She is taking on your pain.  Even if you are OK, she is not.  The daughter you love more than your life, is reflecting the pain IN your life. It is the pain in her life that makes things more clear.  You need to rescue her and maybe you can rescue yourself.  Can you?
I can help you find your way to the light at the end of the tunnel.  Call me at 954-793-3201.

Carolyn has been providing therapy for clients for 30+ years and although she has worked with all kinds of clients in all kinds of environments, her passion continues to be providing services for clients who have dealt with sexual abuse issues and trauma. She currently provides all types of therapeutic support for victims of sexual abuse assault rape and incest.   Serving Ft. Lauderdale, Palm Beach, and Miami area   
Carolyn Wilson,  M.S.W., L.C.S.W.                       
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