What does a sexually abused child act like? Can you spot one? Can you tell by looking at your children? Of course, the behavior changes depending on the person and situation, so it's not always easy. You think.. "GREAT, just what I need." I mean, most children today are jigsaw puzzles without all the pieces. They don't even speak a language you recognize. But take a deep breath, we can figure this out.
Many children who are sexually abused are quiet, withdrawn, want to stay by themselves. That makes sense. But some children who are sexually abused are not withdrawn. They learn how to cope, really quickly. And if it means they are always the one who is the center of attention, the one with the loudest laugh, then it means they are not in a quiet room with the wrong person. Sexually abused children often do poorly in school, but they can also be a star in the academic environment because this is the one place they can be safe, they can be a success, instead of someone who is being abused.
Children who are sexually abused may suddenly have a lot of information about sex that they didn't have before. They may describe sexual acts they should have no information about at their age or maturity level. When a three year old tells you about something that sounds like oral sex, you really need to ask more questions.
When a child has pain or redness in their genital area, you need to ask them what is going on. When children, especially girls seem to see their identity or worth as a person linked to their sexuality, make sure you ask questions. Our society sees girls and women in a very sexualized and unreal way and many females hold themselves to that standard. But if your five year old is wearing booty shorts, you have a problem and it may be sexual abuse.
The bottom line is this.....PAY ATTENTION. You have to know what is happening even when you are not there. And talk, talk, talk, even when you think they are not listening...keep talking to them.
Carolyn has been providing therapy for clients for 30+ years and although she has worked with all kinds of clients in all kinds of environments, her passion continues to be providing services for clients who have dealt with sexual abuse issues and trauma. She currently provides all types of therapeutic support for victims of sexual abuse assault rape and incest. Serving Ft. Lauderdale, Palm Beach, and Miami area
Carolyn Wilson, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.
Personal Solutions 954-793-3201
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