Do You Really Have To Worry About Sexual Abuse? Why Would They Do That?

I remember when I was training to be a Guardian Ad Litem in Miami,  They told us that one of the reasons people sexually abused others was because they had been sexually abused themselves.  It makes sense because we most often repeat what happens in our childhood environment because it seems normal to us.  It is also very sad, but it helped me see sexual abuse perpetrators in a different way.  And so it goes, the perpetrator was probably abused and his abuser was probably abused by him or her before too. This is why besides rescuing the abused, it is of primary importance to stop the cycle of abuse in a family.

After recognizing and dealing with the abuse, it seems illogical for someone who has been sexually abused to lie or keep the abuse to themselves.  If you are reading this, you may be thinking, "Not me, I would be running and screaming, and telling everybody.  But believe it or not, that's fairly uncommon.

First of all, when we are talking about sexual abuse, certainly when we think about rape, and incest, the conversation is Y-U-C-K-Y  (that is a technical term).  Many of us don't like to talk about sex, at all, much less to talk about it to the police or another authority figure, like a child speaking to an adult.  Then,  if you can, think about the guilt that comes with this kind of abuse.  Most victims feel a lot of guilt about what happened to them, no matter how much we know they shouldn't feel that way.  Remember, sexual abuse, rape, or incest is not the victims' fault, ever, anytime. But we often feel guilt.  And the perpetrators tell you things to make you feel guilty, which is easy if you are a child. or isolated.

And if you are a child, counting on someone else for your room and board, or living in the same home as the perpetrator, when the abuse is reported and the police show up, you may not be welcome to stay where you were living before.  If you are a child, you may feel uncomfortable because everyone is mad and yelling.

If you were in the middle of all that, would you want to deny being abused?  Would you tell the police you don't know what they are talking about?  So would a lot of victims.

Carolyn has been providing therapy for clients for 30+ years and although she has worked with all kinds of clients in all kinds of environments, her passion continues to be providing services for clients who have dealt with sexual abuse issues and trauma. She currently provides all types of therapeutic support for victims of sexual abuse assault rape and incest.   Serving Ft. Lauderdale, Palm Beach, and Miami area   
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