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Monday, January 11, 2016

Do You Really Have to Worry About Sexual Abuse? I thought I would be OK.

I thought I would be fine.  After all, I was a therapist.  I knew what to do.  I was ahead of most people.  I didn’t have a family but I had wonderful friends who met me at the hospital and let me stay with them for that week.  I was always the one who helped others and I was strong.  I had been on my own since I was 15 years old; I know my way around.
I went right back to work. Staying in my apartment where it happened was tough.  I had a little dog, Ms. Bear.  She probably weighed 15 pounds.  I made her sleep between me and the door.  I slept with the windows open, it was North Carolina in the summer; most of us didn’t have air conditioning in our homes.  Ms. Bear slept touching me and I would wake up as soon as I felt her tense before she barked at a noise she heard outside.  
A few months later, I could not get out of bed.  I drug myself out of bed long enough to work and then it was back to bed.  One day, I got up, tried to wash my face to go to work, and couldn’t remember how to do it.  I pulled on some sweat pants and ran out of the house, jumping in my car. My “I’m-Perfect-Everything-is-Just-Fine” facade had finally crumbled completely.  My friends knew something was wrong and made me promise to find a therapist to listen.
And I’ll never forget that first therapy session.  I couldn’t look the therapist in the eye.  I cried so hard I thought my heart would burst.  Afterwards, she told me there was help available for people like me.  There was hope.  Wow!


Over the next five years, through therapy and support, I began to heal.  I became involved in a supportive group of people who lived through the same thing and I felt I was not alone.  I could tell my story, and people would listen.  I no longer needed to feel ashamed.  .  Best of all, I learned none of what happened to me in the past was my fault.  None of it.

Pretending you’re “okay” when you’re not is hard work, isn’t it?  If you’re tired of pretending and ready to take that first step toward healing, I want to be good to yourself. Seek therapy, counseling, or coaching.  Do something!  Why do I say this?  Because I know.  

Carolyn has been providing therapy for clients for 30+ years and although she has worked with all kinds of clients in all kinds of environments, her passion continues to be providing services for clients who have dealt with sexual abuse issues and trauma. She currently provides all types of therapeutic support for victims of sexual abuse assault rape and incest.   Serving Ft. Lauderdale, Palm Beach, and Miami area   
Carolyn Wilson,  M.S.W., L.C.S.W.                       
 Personal Solutions 954-793-3201  
Helping you To Find Your Personal Solutions





 



Monday, February 16, 2015

The Trouble With Sexual Abuse.

 The Trouble With Sexual Abuse 

     As a therapist who specializes in work with clients who have been sexually abused, I have worked with clients whose lives have been forever altered from the trauma they have been through.  Until you live through this kind of life-changing event, (or events), you cannot imagine the impact.  It is something that makes the victim into another person.

    And my message here, even with all the gloom and doom, is "you can be a survivor, from those moments you felt like a victim, you can survive and become a fully functioning person."  Believe me, there is a way to put all those pieces back together.  You may need some help; maybe a good therapist, but you can do it.  So don't give up, you can put the pieces back together.

     I wonder if the perpetrator ever sees the damage they do, see how impaired their victims' lives can become by one act of power and control?  I wonder if they would they make different choices?  Family members, acquaintances, and people they see every day and sometimes traumatized in the name of love or some sort of affection often victimize people.  Do these aggressors care?  Would it make a difference?
     The victim needs to put their life back together, put their head, and heart together and figure out how to exist in a world that is completely changed.  They become a new person and they feel they will never see joy, see colors, trust, love, close their eyes in peace, or be able to take a deep breath again.  They need to re-evaluate the world.  But, I promise, with some work, you can do it. Don't give up.

Carolyn has been providing therapy for clients for 30+ years and although she has worked with all kinds of clients in all kinds of environments, her passion continues to be providing services for clients who have dealt with sexual abuse issues and trauma. She currently provides all types of therapeutic support for victims of sexual abuse assault rape and incest.   Serving Ft. Lauderdale, Palm Beach, and Miami area   
Carolyn Wilson,  M.S.W., L.C.S.W.                       
Personal Solutions 954-793-3201  
Helping you To Find Your Personal Solutions